Having a voice can protect you from all kinds of really bad shit.
Did you know that having a voice now is one of the greatest tools for healing your birth experience?
Did you know that your voice is the number one most powerful way you can protect yourself and your baby from birth trauma?
Reclaiming your voice can completely change the trajectory of your life.
Have a voice.
I don’t mind if it’s quiet, loud or runs off your tongue like honey, just make it your your own voice.
Finding our voice can take patience and courage, and as women we need to know how to find our authentic voice.
Let me begin by explaining what I am not talking about here.
I am not talking about the voice of your head. I am not talking about the voice of what you’ve been told. I am not talking about the voice of your friends and community.
I am talking about the voice in your bones.
I am talking about the voice of your womb.
I am talking about the voice of your soul.
I am talking about the voice of your deep inner knowing.
I am talking about the voice between your soft inner thighs.
All these womanly body parts have a felt sense that cannot be denied. No more silence. Let the sound of your skin, bones, womb and yoni be heard. I truly believe that if women felt courageous to express the truth of their body (and not silence it) birth trauma would begin to stop across the world. Enough already.
You see, many girls have been taught to play sweetly and nicely, even when we are being harmed or threatened.
We have been taught to be compliant, nice, quiet and to ‘not make a fuss’ despite being coerced into being cut, pulled, prodded, and tied up to a monitor or worse still, an operating theatre bed.
This has to STOP.
We must stalk the predator within and without lest we become prey. We were not born to become prey. We must protect what we love.
When we are young we hear the voices of our parents, teachers, friends, relatives and churches day in and day out.
We take in and on, we digest many of these voices internally (even if we don’t agree with them) as if they were the absolute truth about life.
When we are very very young, i.e. pre-verbal we don’t question, we just absorb.
When we are infants, we are like chalk in a glass of ink.
We take it all in.
We take in ideas and random comments made by others as truth and make them mean something about us. As girls we have taken in births portrayed in television sitcoms and movies and on some level we may even unconsciously expect this kind of melodrama when we go to the hospital to have our own baby. You can clear all of this unknown material with some inner work.
Birth was not meant to be a crazy drama with you screaming in a white gown and your legs splayed open on a bed. FUCK NO!
Birth can be intense, primal, passionate, YES, but did you know that birth can also be even profoundly sexy, beautiful, wild and very very straight forward.
Take back your power.
Take back your body.
Have a voice now.